kemapanan

Terlibat percakapn yg menarik dengan seorang teman.. dia menceritakan masalahnya.. masalah yang dihadapi, ternyata masalahnya itu sama dengan yg sedang dihadapi teman saya yg lain,..

kenapa semuanya mesti pake ukuran kalian, ukuran manusia ukuran yg hanya terbatas pada pikiran dan logika2 yg gak ada ketetapan pasti, coba kamu bandingkan ukuran2 yg kalian punya dengan ukuran orang lain pasti berbeda, karena ukuran itu relatif .. kalian hanya melihat apa yg bisa kalian lihat, kalian hanya meraba apa yang hanya bisa kalian raba, kalian hanya mendengar apa yang kalian dengar.
Ukuran dan standar kemapanan yang kalian pake gak bisa diterapkan mungkin malah terlalu tinggi buat orang lain, itukah ketakutan kalian ketika laki2 kalian mengajak menikah, ..? sempit sekali ternyata pikiran kalian itu, kalian belum memahami konsep "pintu rizki akan terbuka ketika sudah menikah", dari cerita kalian aku tahu laki2 kalian bukanla seorang gelandangan, bukan pula seorang yg gak berpendidikan dan seorang penganggur, semuanya orang yg berkecukupan klo dilihat dari kacamata aku, aku bingung standar apa yg kalian pakai..? ukuran2 yg semu, apa kalian memang gak pandai bersyukur dengan apa yg kalian punya..

disela percakapan aku cukup tercengang dan kaget dengan kalimat2 yg sama persis kalian ucapkan "kayanya laki gw mending balik lagi aja sama mantannya" yg satu lagi bilang "gw ikhlas klo dia menemukan wanita lain"...

heiii kalian..!!! *sambil nampar pipi kalian satu2 biar sadar
ternyta cuman segitu doang isi kepala kalian, kalian gak mau pertahanin hub. itu cuma karena belum menemukan kemapanan yang aku lihat kemapanan dalam hal ekonomi, coba cara paling sederhana turunkan standar kalian dalam bidang ekonomi, toh tujuan utama pernikahan adalah untuk beribadah dan menyempurnakan separuh Din, bukan untuk memperkaya diri, yakinkan diri kalian kalian akan menghabiskan sisa hidup kalian dengan orang yg kalian sangat cintai, bukankah itu sangat indah, kalian akan berada di samping laki2 kalian di saat senang dan susah, dengan demikian perkawinan kalian akan terjaga apabila dilandasi oleh cinta. Coba bayangkan klo kalian menikah bukan atas nama cinta, tetapi hanya berdasarkan "kemapanan" yang selalu kalian agung2kan itu, apakah ada jaminan "kemapanan" itu akan bertahan lama, akan abadi, dan apakah jika "kemapanan" itu telah hilang kalian masih mau berada di samping laki2 tersebut ketika alasan kalian menikahi dia sudah tidak ada..?

sekali lagi jangan terpaku dengan ukuran2 yg kita punya, percayalah Allah maha mengetahui apa yg terbaik buat kita, dan jangan lah merasa takut apabila menikah kelak kita gak bisa makan, gak punya apa2,, percayalah pada janji Allah :
Dan kawinkanlah orang-orang yang sendirian di antara kamu dan orang-orang yang layak (berkawin) dari hamba-hamba sahayamu yang laki-laki dan perempuan. Jika mereka miskin Allah akan memampukan mereka dengan karunia-Nya. Dan Allah Maha Luas (pemberian-Nya) lagi Maha Mengetahui". [An-Nur : 32]
nasihat dari gw, pertahankanlah hubungan kalian yg didasari oleh cinta itu, sudh bertahun2 kalian menjalin cinta sangat disayangkan apabila harus diakhiri krn pikiran2 sempit tadi.. hilangkanlah keraguan, fahami konsep kemapanan yg diajarkan oleh Allah dan RasulNya bukan hanya konsep kemapanan yang ada di pikiran kita,
teruslah berdoa dan berusaha and God will take care of the rest

nb: gw masih di sini kapan pun kalian butuh pendapat dan encouragement

tanpa judul

Gak kerasa.. bentar lagi tgl 15 agustus 09, kamu akan memulai menjadi mahasiswa lagi dan pada tanggal itu juga kosan aku di sini sudah habis, suatu kebetulan, tapi terlalu banyak kebetulan, tampaknya pendapat Einstein kalah, ternyata tuhan pintar bermain dadu. Aku mesti pindah.. aku akan beristirahat sejenak di rumah.. untuk mempersiapkan (insya allah) perjalanan panjang, perjalanan menantang dunia.. :D

tgl 15 ini kita sama2 memulai langkah baru di kehidupan ini, sama2 memasuki dunia baru.. menjalani tantangan baru dalam hidup. Kamu tak perlu berkecil hati karena gak ketrima di Univ. pilihan kmu. Mungkin kmu emang gak cocok berprofesi sebagai Psikolog :D . Mungkin kamu cocoknya jadi manajer yg handal.. :). barusan aku baca tentang kurikulum program di univ. tempat kamu kuliah, mata kuliah nya bagus2 dan tampaknya up to date dengan keadaan sekarang dan dibutuhkan pasar, aku yakin ketika kamu lulus dari univ. itu kamu akan mudah mendapat kerja dan menjadi seorang yg kompeten (sebelumnya aku suka bilang kamu gak kompeten.. :D that was just kidding.. ) di bidangnya. I believe u'll gain success in everything.. what u should do is keep trying and praying then believe that god will take care of the rest..

i'll always here, anytime u need me,, u need help for college, thesis.. solution for your life.. or just motivation and encouragment, just ask me.. because u have been my precious baby, and always be..

here. i always pray for your happiness, i always ask God to show and give u the best. Believe me, God never shows us something we aren't ready to understand. Instead, He lets us see what we need to see, when we need to see it. He'll wait until our eyes and hearts are open to Him, and then when we're ready, He will plan out feet on the path that's best for us...but it's up to us to do the walking..

ps: kamu baik2 ya di sana.. Percayalah aku di sini baik2 saja, dan aku harap kamu pun begitu,

Personality Test.

baru ikutan kuis di sini ini dia hasilnya.. kayanya ada benernya juga.. :D

Your view on yourself:

You are intelligent, honest and sweet. You are friendly to everybody and don't like conflict. Because you're so cheerful and fun people are naturally attracted to you and like to talk to you.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:

You like serious, smart and determined people. You don't judge a book by its cover, so good-looking people aren't necessarily your style. This makes you an attractive person in many people's eyes.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:

You prefer to get to know a person very well before deciding whether you will commit to the relationship.

The seriousness of your love:

You are very serious about relationships and aren't interested in wasting time with people you don't really like. If you meet the right person, you will fall deeply and beautifully in love.

Your views on education

You may not like to study but you have many practical ideas. You listen to your own instincts and tend to follow your heart, so you will probably end up with an unusual job.

The right job for you:

You're a practical person and will choose a secure job with a steady income. Knowing what you like to do is important. Find a regular job doing just that and you'll be set for life.

How do you view success:

You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don't succeed. Don't give up when you haven't yet even started! Be courageous.

What are you most afraid of:

You are concerned about your image and the way others see you. This means that you try very hard to be accepted by other people. It's time for you to believe in who you are, not what you wear.

Who is your true self:

You are full of energy and confidence. You are unpredictable, with moods changing as quickly as an ocean. You might occasionally be calm and still, but never for long.

story..

ada seorang temen gw yg ikutan salah satu writing contest, dia ngangkat atau terinspirasi dari my love story.. dan ternyata masuk nominasi.. dan akhirnya juara 3.. dia menuliskan ceritanya dengan sangat bagus menurut pendapat gw.. penggambaran emosinya sangat bagus.. sangat mirip dengan apa yg gw rasain, gw alamin.. it's like a dejavu when i read it.. beautiful words, beautiful story.
let me share a scene yg jadi favorit the author....

He turns on the radio, letting it in, letting it sink, getting rid of the cold sweat.
Pondering what the hell he is suppose to feel? Should he be grateful? Should he be angry? sad? frustrated?

He look at at the watch. ten more minutes, she has said. she would come in ten more fucking minute. And then what? savor togetherness? feel sorry? embrace the last chance?

I want everything. i want everything. i want everything.
if this the last time, then i want everything. fights, love, tears, laugh, kiss... i want every-single-thing.

He knows he is going to give it all. He doesn't want to have anything left after this of there nothing left to enjoy but a memory.
He pace around the small room cursing at the time.
is it too fast? is it too slow? is life a liar?

He wants to change his clothes. He wants to change the sheets, making it special. But then again for what? He is, at the end of tonight, is going to let her go.
With God will, he will pull through and he will not cry.

Then he heard her.
First, the sound of her car hat makes that special screech sounds. his heart racing harder.
Then the sound of her heels. He can imagine her looking so perfect.
Then the sound of the door being unlocked. He can already smell her perfume.

He closed his eyes,
there is the love of his life.
beautiful story isn't it..?
keep writing my friend, it's my pleasure to share my story with u..

a confession..

haii how are you..
now i feel i really want to grab my phone and dial your number...
heard your voice talk about anything, i really miss the converseation that we had before..
miss the time when i was snoring when u called me.. miss the time when we still up at the middle of the night or early morning just to talk.. share our story even sometimes it end up in fight.. :D but we always laughed after that.
it has been more than a month since u was gone
since i cant hear your voice
since u or i decided to end this..
since u never come to visit me.. and so do i..

Hi.. how was your days.. ?
how was your life..?
how was your love life..?
i thought maybe u have found someone else..
who filled your days...

hi what are you doing now.?
hmm are u still up..? just arrived from ur sat-night..? or still hang-out with someone that u love.. ?
otherwise maybe u just think about me like u always told me a thousand times before.. ah.. just my thought i doubt u still think about me..

do u still remember what we had gone through..?
those high mountain to climb.. those river to cross, those stones to destroy, those ice to break..
it's harder day by days.. can we through thoose again..? we just dont know..
maybe we can make it if we take it slow.. no one told life will be easy.. but it worth to fight for..
but watch it now.. u quit and give up in the middle of our journey,,
And now look the people arround me.. they laugh at me..
they laugh everytime i say i still have a feeling for you..
they said i'm stupid, dumb, idiot, etc
they said i have to move on and i know reality kicking faith sometimes..
is that our faith..?
i just dont know..
In the early monday morning I really miss you so much
To the grey sky of Monday I send a hundred kisses and a big hug (hmm i thik i dont need a big to hug u.. small hug is enough.. :) ) to you
I officially missing you ….

Bandung dingin 02 agustus 09 00:45..
still at my room my empty space.. my loneliness...